Testifying in family law matters can be a stressful and emotional experience.
- Tell the Truth: To have credibility with the court, you must answer truthfully. If the judge or opposing counsel suspects you are not telling the truth they will disregard the majority of your testimony and believe the other side. Your legal team has prepared for the truth, good, bad, and ugly, so stick with the truth!
- Understand the Process: Familiarize yourself with the court procedures and the role of the family law judge in your county. Know the timeline of events and what to expect from the hearing. Review all the information provided to you by your attorney.
- Preparation is Key: You must be just as prepared as your legal team is. Review all relevant documents, case filings, financial records, and any other evidence that supports your position. Rehearse your testimony out loud in front of a mirror. Organize your thoughts, and remember what is important.
- Maintain Professionalism: Keep a respectful tone with everyone associated with your case. This professionalism will facilitate better relationships and can help facilitate better outcomes for your case. You should be courteous and respectful to anyone from the time you leave your car in the parking lot until you are back in your car and your driveway. You never know who is watching, hearing, or seeing what is going on.
- Avoid Arguing: If you disagree with the opposing party’s evidence or testimony, resist the urge to argue, make faces, shake your head, or tap your fingers or pen on the table. Instead, write things down to your attorney quietly and focus on presenting your side of the story through your testimony.
- Loose Lips Sink Ships: If you can answer with a yes or no, do so. You are not required to explain unless asked. If you do not understand the question, say so. Only answer the question asked. Stick to the facts and avoid giving unnecessary information. Make sure your answers directly address the questions posed by the attorney or the judge.
- Listen Carefully: Pay close attention to the questions being asked. Ask for clarification before answering if needed.
- Speak Clearly and Calmly: During your testimony, speak slowly and clearly. Avoid rushing through your words and take a moment to collect your thoughts if needed before answering.
- Dress Appropriately: Your appearance can influence perceptions. Dress professionally to show respect for the court and the seriousness of the matters being discussed.
- Consult with Your Attorney: Before testifying, meet with your lawyer to discuss potential questions and strategies. Your legal team can provide valuable insight and help you prepare more effectively.
By following these simple suggestions, you can present your testimony confidently and effectively.